What Men Want In Bed
By Travis Ross
What Men Want In Bed
It is different than you think …
I know you’ve read a thing or two about sex in Cosmopolitan and the Flair.
But those papers are written by female interns who know as much about men as you do.
Just forget what you read there, it doesn’t make sense anyway.
Men are often not honest about what they want.
They are shy or think you think they are a freak. At the same time, they want to be your best lover ever. But in turn, he has no idea what you like. He’s just doing something.
How much fun you have is a big part of how he experiences lovemaking with you. That’s why in this article you’ll get my best tips on how to give him sex that he’ll remember years later.
They are not so many specific techniques or positions, but more the basics you need to understand to give him the night of his life (at the bottom of this article you will find a link to these techniques)
Are you ready for it? Here are my tips:
Many men have trouble letting themselves go to bed. They want “permission” from the woman they are with, as it were. Not very masculine, but that’s just the way it is.
Showing that you are having fun is a good idea.
Even if he’s not very good in bed. It helps him to relax more and gives him confidence so that he can do his best.
Of course, you shouldn’t fake it if you don’t like it. But if he goes in the right direction even a little bit, it shows. A few simple ways are:
- Move your body
- Tell him
A “Wow this feels so good.” does more for his ego than you think.
Men love lingerie. It’s almost essential to have this in your closet. You dress up as a present that he can slowly unwrap.
Why does this work so well?
Simple: every time you put on a new set, you look like “new” again.
Men need variety in bed.
Not only with the positions and forms of sex but also secretly who they sleep with. Most men keep things tidy and don’t cheat. But their brain can’t help it: it arouses those strong cravings for variety.
You can compensate for this by purchasing a new set every now and then and varying it. As a result, he gets the variety he longs for. And that as a result, his passion for you is constantly rekindled.
This tip works both ways:
First, it is important to smell good yourself so that it does not turn off on you. He will never say this to you. But if you don’t smell that fresh down there after a hard day’s work, then everything happens reluctantly.
To be cared for.
On the other hand – and this is much more common – he can be rancid. Then you will do things with less pleasure so that the end result is less.
The simplest solution for this is to quickly take a shower together before you go crazy on each other.
I know, it’s not rocket science but somehow it’s often overlooked …
You may think that men like it when you take a lot of initiative in bed. That indeed has its charm. Very occasionally.
Men want to feel big and strong.
They have a big ego. They need to feel empowered and thus retain most of the initiative.
If you can show that you understand that need and can encourage it in him, you will make yourself immortal in his eyes.
So say things like “Tonight you’re the boss.” or “Tonight I will do whatever you say.”
Repeat it a few times. Men are East Indian deaf. If he’s paying attention as you say it to him, you usually don’t have to say it twice.
He will take the opportunity to take the initiative and thoroughly enjoy his dominant role.
Dirty talk is an art. Turning a man on and keeping him excited with words is more difficult than you think, but easy to learn with the right instruction. So watch my video about this:
And in this article, you’re going to get quite a few sample sentences that you can still use tonight to turn your husband on outrageously. These are my general tips to get that dirty talk across:
- Make eye contact while saying something. If you don’t, it will appear insincere. Sincerity is what makes dirty talk believable and what turns men on.
- Keep it short and simple. An excited man cannot think straight. By avoiding sentences but getting straight to the point, you talk on his level.
- Don’t say too much. This spoils the atmosphere. Say a phrase now and then and stick to that.
- Pay close attention to how he reacts and adjusts your repertoire accordingly.
- Dirty talk starts before lovemaking. Wind it up throughout the day. Tell him you want him. This can also be done in an app or text message.
In a moment you will get even more tips on how to turn him on through his ears.
I just mentioned it. But every so many lovemaking you can take the lead once.
Men usually want to do this themselves. Then he feels tougher and stronger. That bit of “ego” belongs to sex for him. If he doesn’t get that, it doesn’t feel finished.
But every now and then we love it when you take charge and be the boss. Turn the tables.
You don’t have to put him in a submissive role, but you can if you both feel like it.
Tell him what to do and don’t forget to experiment with some new things. This will ensure that he has a “wow” moment and never gets enough.
When in doubt: Go louder.
Unfortunately, many women are afraid of making a noise. That’s a shame. Men love when you show how aroused you are in a primitive way.
This doesn’t have to be even with words. Moaning loudly, screaming, or making noise in whatever way you want makes him very excited. In fact, the harder you go, the better he likes it.
Here you can exaggerate again if you wish.
If you’re a little shy and normally uncomfortable with this, you can practice it this way. If you notice that it is getting easier, you can gradually make it more straightforward. Then you only scream when you really feel like it.
It’s a powerful weapon.
As you know as a woman, men don’t always consider foreplay and after play as important. They skip it a little too often and that’s not a good thing.
Fortunately, you know better. You know that good interplay makes you feel closer than ever. And that is a good time to caress his ego.
Compliment him on his sexual performance. He is very sensitive to that.
In any case, men really like compliments.
But then about how smart we are, how strong we are, how confident we are, and how good we are in bed. We don’t think the rest is important.
We would rather have one compliment about our great bed performance than a hundred compliments about that nice shirt we are wearing.
You can keep it simple. A simple “How good are you in bed” or even “Wow…. that was the best thing that happened to me this week ” can already make a big impression. As long as it sounds sincere or innocent, it’s exciting to a man.
After sex, don’t forget to snuggle up to him like he’s the most beautiful and strongest man on earth. That is also a huge delight to his ego. He would like to feel like your protector.
I have good news and bad news.
- You probably already know the bad news. Most men are horribly bad in bed. They just do something and do not understand the whistle of a woman’s body. Let alone her mind and her emotions.
- The good news is that he is eager to learn. He wants to listen to your instructions and do everything he can to give you a nice night. You can teach your boyfriend or husband how to please you. As long as you are honest about the instructions you give.
You can do this by telling him which way to go:
- “Higher. Lower.”
- “Slightly to the left. Yes there.”
- “Harder. Softer. ”
By telling him (in a submissive way) where to go, you allow him to learn. He will seize that opportunity with both hands. Even though his ego is so big, he knows he needs to learn more. And he needs you for that.
Disclaimer: You must bring this respectfully. Does not make him feel that he is not doing anything and then orders him to do the right thing. But it gives small clues to do the right thing.
Another way is to do it more subtly:
You moan louder when he goes in the right direction, and softer when he takes the wrong turn.
I recommend that you always start with this more subtle variation and only switch to the explicit cues when he doesn’t understand the moaning.
This reduces the chance that you will hurt him and thereby completely scare him off.
Earlier in this article, I said that you should surrender to your husband. And that’s what turns him on.
But that doesn’t mean you lie in bed like a bag of salt while he goes about his business. That is of course not what a man is waiting for. So the so-called “starfish” will no longer appear in your repertoire.
There are plenty of ways you can take action while in bed. Touch him. Touch yourself. Make sure to use your hands, mouth, or legs to increase intimacy between you. Turn your body to turn up the heat.
Do anything you think makes sex hotter, as long as he keeps his sense of control.
Most men like it a little rough. But they cannot always read what you are waiting for. That is why you will have to adjust it.
You do this by slowing it down or encouraging it by how you touch it.
If he goes too fast, grab his hands and loosen the grip or pull them away a bit. If he doesn’t go fast enough, you pull him towards you or let him feel that he can go faster.
Most men like it hard. He wants to feel like he is dominating you. And that just goes better if he does it with a lot of force.
On the other hand, he doesn’t want to hurt you. He wants to be able to trust that you indicate how you feel.
Maybe this is my best dirty talk tip of this article. Not sure what to say? Then start with his name.
Every man thinks this is the most beautiful word in his native language.
It makes him feel good about himself and your sex. Especially when you are near your peak (or it seems so to him), there is nothing more beautiful for him to hear you say his name.
Don’t be skimpy with the volume and frequency either.
When you want to say something but don’t know what, go ahead. If you have to moan, you might as well shape your mouth right away so that it changes to its name. “AAAAAH” becomes “MATTHIJS” .
Or whatever your friend’s name may be.
When he was little, your friend loved Santa Claus and Santa. Especially if he unexpectedly found presents around the Christmas tree or in his shoe. He felt like a king and could not wait for a new holiday.
You can achieve the same by surprising your friend at unexpected times every now and then.
You can start calmly by initiating lovemaking at your home. Or you can take it tighter and start making love in a place where it is actually not allowed. Think outside in a forest or other public places.
And what about in his car?
In all cases, your husband likes sex. And when you surprise him with exciting lovemaking out of the blue, it makes him very happy. He will never want to lose you again if you take him that way out of sheer excitement.
Most women don’t have the guts to initiate sex in this way.